How to know if a friend is your friend

Hello readers! As usual, this will be a lengthy post to address some issues that i have try to keep it under but decided to write this post.

I know the possible consequences, the moment i decided to complete this post and publish it, that will means the end of our friendship that i have once cherished with a friend.

The story started when i first decided to enrol in Kaplan to pursue my degree. The sales consultant explained to me that if i have any friends that i know of can indicate their name on my application form, once the application form has been processed. I will receive $700 via cheque as referral fee.
At that point of time, i couldn't think of any names and Kiti told me she has a friend she knew that studied in Kaplan so maybe i can put her friend name. I have assumed the $700 cheque will state my name as the sales consultant didn't told me except that i will receive the $700.

Besides, i would feel that this $700 is rightfully my own money that they have charge from the school fee. So kiti was saying that i should give her a treat when i receive the $700 since it was thanks to her that i got a name to indicate. I was perfectly ok to giving her a treat.

After a few months when the class started, the sales consultant came to look for me and issue me the cheque for the referral fee and this was when i realise its kind of complicated because the cheque name was Kiti's friend instead of me. So that means i have to contact her friend to inform him that i have a cheque that is written to him as referral fee but it wasn't through his referral that i decided to enrol in Kaplan. We was just using his name. (Which i have already told Kiti beforehand to inform her friend when i wrote his name down and she say ok)

I have other classmates receiving the cheque and most of them was able to get back their $700 in full amount because their friend was pretty ok with using their name and returning the $ back to them. For this friend whom i have never met, i was not v sure whether he will be kind enough to return the $700 so i told Kiti, you can try to talk to him, if he is not willing, we can have a spilt, 50-50 agreement. Because its better than i get nothing out of it? I guess. Afterall, he might decided not to give me at all when i bank in. To me, money is pretty much sensitive topic even among friends.
But what makes me so frustrated with her was,she is siding with her friend, taking sides for him because she claimed we use his name without asking for permission.

However she probably forgot the fact in the first place, she was the one who give me her friend name.  So she feel that her friend deserve to spilt $350 just by using his name.
At that time, i went to check, another alternative was to pay $50 to change the referral name. I could change to another friend that i was very sure they would give me the full amount back.

However, she convince me that her friend can be trusted and reliable.
I don't know what went over my mind to trust her so i went to deposit the cheque believing that her friend will keep to his promise of the 50-50 agreement. All this while, she was the middleman liaising between me and her friend. The money should be credited by next week however i didnt receive the $ as promised. I have to keep asking her for the update of the $ to be credited back to me. When i ask for her friend's number she was reluctant to give it to me, then telling me she didn't told her friends that it was me that use his name but her that use her friend name.

At this point of time, i find whatever she said to me before was contradicting and she seem to hide things from me because if she is worried that her friend might not return me the $ if he know its was me that use his name, why did she even bother suggesting her friend name to me in the first place? It completely overthrow her statement of her friend being reliable and trustworthy no?

It was only after this entire incident that i realise how hypocrite she is as a person. I had to spend more than a week to get back that $350 and it was until i put in so much effort to chase her to get her friend to transfer me the $. During the chasing period, i still have to tolerate her being frustrated at me because i was chasing her but she doesn't see it like it's her responsibility in ensuring that her friend transferred the money instead of me asking her to check.

Frankly, when i know the money should have been credited in long ago, i was worried her friend has no intention to transfer because she was telling me all sort of excuses. ibanking is so advanced nowsdays, it takes less than 5min to do the transfer, and there are many ATMs around so no excuse for no ibanking and can't locate a proper ATM within Singapore.

I took to Twitter platform to complain about her friend because i was so angry after several attempts to get the $ back. She read my tweets and got angry as she ask me not to indicate her name. Oh please, i wouldn't have to resort to complaining about your friend if this issue was handle properly in the first place? She still got the cheek to blame me? I know we have mutual friends and she probably feel i am tarnishing her image but she is also doing the same when she tweet about me too. Not that i care because my conscience is clear anyway.

Even though i manage to get the $ back but she was telling me she don't need me to give her the treat because she is tired of being the messenger between me and her friend.

To me, since i have already make the promise, there was nothing wrong to give her a treat as what she requested previously even though this was after so much effort of getting the $ back.
However after the incident was over and few days later, she was tweeting about me

This was extracted from her tweets as shown below : 

'see this kind of person worth trusting? you fled even faster than my friend! i think i should also screenshot everything and show to the police or pass to the police too!' its almost similar even without the screenshot. 

I shown it to my several friends with the screenshot and they could vouch for it.

i guess it is no coincidence that she has other friends about the same time frame that told her something about reporting to the police？This was my last resort when i told her if i don't get the money by a certain date, i am going to report police. (Before the friend finally transferred to me.)

The only reason i could only think of her tweet above was the promise of the dinner treat that i have not been able to meet her, i was not even avoiding her at all, i was just busy. I was angry but at the same time, it has make me look at her in a different light. A friend that i am willing to end the friendship because of her disgusting acts. I still kept my promise and give her treat that she wanted so much. Right after the treat, she was the one that gone MIA. 

If a meal cost is what it takes to see a person true color, i am glad this meal was well worth. She mentioned in her other tweets that i have been seeking for her help in alot of issue and she shouldn't even help me.

Frankly, I cannot remember asking any of her fucking help in whatever.

but i remember the number of times she talk to me with a motive.

1. When her bloody face got some breakouts, she called me immediately asking me for help, asking me for advice from my boss regarding her face.

I seriously regret introducing her to see my boss because she spend such a long time in the consultation and hogging up the entire queue and probably why my boss dont even give her a discount when he used to give to my other friends.

2. She ask me to help her take slimming pills so that she could consume or for her aunt etc i remember helping her to get 2 box of it, and i cannot remember if she did transfer me the money for the pills. I only remember she did not pass me any $ at the same time when i pass her the medicine.

3. When she decided to apply for an admin inside the army, and got rejected and tried to ask me to ask my bf for help to see if she could get recruited in.

She only know how to make use of others when she is in need of help.

4. Request for my lecture notes so that she could use it to give some tuition to her friends or students.
This was after the money issue incident. Being generous, i did pass her some of my lecture notes to her. 

After the incident, we no longer talk as often and to be honest, i was not planning to stay in contact with her too until few month ago when i started on a losing weight regime as my bf was overseas and i wanted to give him a surprise when he is back. She saw and came to private message me telling me i lose so much weight and asking about my weight. 

I guess i was being dumb to tell her and she didnt reply until weeks later she message me again asking me about some xenical medicine for slimming purpose.
Talking to me with a motive again. 

when she need me, she come looking for me, when she don't, she disappear.

This is also why i feel the need to clarify the entire issue to prevent misleading others into thinking she is the victim from everything.

If we have any mutual friends reading whatever i am writing right now, and thinking whether you should let her know, go ahead. 

i am not twisting the facts. 

whatever i say is the truth, i am game on for confrontation too.

At the end of the day, we are no longer even acquaintances.

She is so insignificant that i didn't even realise she blocked me on wechat and whatsapp after that and i didn't even know when it was. Not that i care. Haha

Having a dog is better than having you around as my friend.

I am still very grateful to have some of my close friends who will never try to take advantage of me like her. To anyone out there, if you observed you have such a friend like this, its time to get rid of this kind of friend because they will never think for you but for themselves only, and you will end up being used at the end of the day.

till then!

Jieying and Junjie 22th Birthday Celebration

Hello readers!

 Went out with JJ and JY to celebrate their 22th birthday!

On a separate day even though their birthday falls on the same month.

We went to watch a movie and having dinner for JY as it was a weekday,

we decided to watch a movie titled "Sifu vs Vampire" at west mall.

It was a comedy movie! The cinema theatre looks so new compared to the one in woodlands!

After our movie, we went to Bali Thai for dinner!

I love thai food, tom yum is one of my must have dishes when i had thai food!

We choose their buffet menu, these are served only once but she couldn't finish it and was sharing with us!
we spend our dinner on catching up again!
For JJ birthday's celebration, initial plan was to go to Wild Wild Wet on a weekdays to avoid the crowds, but it has been raining everyday so we had to cancel this plan.
JJ suggested meeting at yishun to decide what we want to do, it was a very impromptu decision because we only decide where to go on the day itself.
We went to had laksa for lunch as there is one popular laksa stall near the yishun bus interchange.
JJ find that this stall laksa is even better than the famous katong laksa!
After our lunch, we went for bowling at yishun safra.
we walked pass KTPH, and saw this hopscoth!

We change to playing pool as we had to wait until 5pm before we could play bowling.

It has been quite long since we played together!

I remember there was one occasion during our schooling in RP, we managed to finish our presentation slides earlier so we went to woodland checkpoint during the lunch time to play!

After playing pool, we went back to bowling!

Jieying brought her selfie monopod, and we was taking some wefie before playing! HAHA

 taking lots of photos again!

 6 years of friendship and still going strong!

  

 we were posing with these teddy bears as one day, i was cleaning my room, and i realised i had too many soft toys, and i know that JY love teddy bears, when i am not actually a fan of it but i do receive these as my birthday presents in the past, so i took a snapshot asking her to choose, so she choose these two! HAHA

 i went to get these teddy bear washed before passing to her!

i cannot remember this teddy bear is given by who, its quite cute but i thought its pointless if i were to keep it in the box because i have selected soft toys that is sleeping with me already on the bed,and  they are already filling up half of my bed.

After our bowling session, we went for our dinner!

initially i thought of going to sembawang shopping centre because i know there used to be a steamboat restaurant located in basement, but my information is all outdated because it has been so long since i went there and it has already closed down!

it was already raining when we was leaving safra yishun, thank god both JJ and me brought umbrella and i was sharing w JY while JJ was protecting the teddy bears from the rain! HAHA

there was nothing much to eat at SSC, so in the end we thought of going opposite as there was some shops that looks like kopitiam etc, and see what we could find!

so just opposite the ssc, we saw this JJ Thai Cuisine, it look decent enough, clean and most most importantly, there is NO GST or service Charge!

i am not sure if its newly opened, but the dishes is all damm cheap!

one bowl of tom yum soup for just $6?!

i can't rmb if the phad thai is just $6 or $8! but this is damm cheap compared to eating at a thai restaurant!

so we was looking at the menu outside, initially we thought we need to wait to be seated, but actually we realised we can just walk in! HAHA

there are also mookata too! for $39.90 but we tried ala carte dishes!

we ordered tom yum soup, clear, seafood and chicken, seafood taste nicer! 

 Then we have the minced pork, phai thai cooked w glass noodles, kang kong cooked with sambals, and honey chicken w cashew nuts! it was damm yummeh! HAHA

all these plus 2 thai ice tea and green tea only cost $41!

its super cheap in my opinion la, and i definitely will return again!

i am spreading the word around to visit this affordable thai food! Apparently they have another outlet at bukit merah! they have a fb and website, so you can google JJ thai cuisine if you want to know more about it! 

Generally the food is served very fast too even though there were alot of customers at the same time!

anyone who is interested, i don't know any other buses except 858 that you can take and alight when you see sembawang shopping centre, this restaurant is located opposite the ssc, which mean you need to cross the road if you are at the ssc, and turning to a small road where the cars will turn in and you will be able to see it on the right, it is very distinctive and impossible not to be able to see this restaurant! HAHA

and so that pretty much summarise our day full of fun, joy, laughter without having to go all the way to town! HAHA, i really hate to go to town nowsdays unless necessary because its always the same old place, or maybe because i have went to town for so many times, there's nothing much to do unless you are filthy rich to be able to buy all those branded stuffs and i am soso sick of it! and the travelling distance :( 

guess i shall end for now! till then! :)

Trust Issue

Hello readers! Attend one of bf's event at work and this was taken accidentally and i find this photo nice so i decided to post it over here.

Some photo taking at his camp area which was opened to their family members for that day!

I am so happy that i was able to wear this dress because it couldn't fit me previously when i was so fat!

Initially i only told some of my close friends that i had BTO for a flat with Jeremy, and some of my friends were happy for me, but then, i realised not all friends feel the same way, maybe its jealousy. well i don't know. But i used to regard her as one of my close friends, which i didn't told her until she asked me, but after this incident, it proves that i should probably kept a distance from her.

As i am typing this right now, and if she is reading this, i think she will probably understand as i did not tell her right in the face.

So, on one day, i was doing some housework at home when i received a message from Surin, i met her during my secondary school, and we had tried to stay in contact, but i did not tell her that i BTO until she asked me first.

This was the screenshot of our whatsapp conversation.

Initially it started normal for a conversation who have not been texting each other,

All until, she asked me the part of BTO and i told her yes i had BTO for a flat with my bf.

As we continued the conversation, i assume she was asking out of concern because when i told some of my friends, they would asked me whether i am sure that Jeremy is the right guy for me, but none gone to such extent like her.

i was telling her that i had no intention of getting married yet but since BTO takes time, so things might changed in the next 3 to 4 years so we decided to go for BTO first.

This was the start of the drama, she started by texting this, you know in drama, it happens everytime, but i guess it do happen in real life too! Just that in real life, you can choose not to committ the same mistake in drama where you don't check with the guy and believe your friend instead, depending on both credibility.

She continued by telling me that she need to tell me something but wanted assurance that it won't affect our friendship. When she texted this, i knew she had some ulterior motive, and wanted to figure out what is she trying to say to me.

I had very strong intuition and i can roughly guess what the person is trying to do when they text something like this, 

she was trying to convince me into believing what she is going to say yet trying to hold back to make me curious.

Which i replied instantly if she doesn't want to say, its ok.

Trying to play mind game, but its so obvious because she replied 1 min later if you see the time, 

i think she was right by assuming that i won't believe what she say, because i don't believe her at all.

I was guessing what she want to say, probably had to do with my boyfriend but i decided to play along with her.

She started by telling me she does not have a good feeling about my boyfriend.

well, i have a good feeling towards him, isn't that mattars the most? HAHA.

she told me that my bf was giving her funny glances, and continued by explaining during brant's birthday party, Jeremy squeezed her butt when it was very crowded. 

I do remember the scene where she say it was very crowded, because everyone was gathering around the table when it was time to cut the birthday cake.

I just find it ridiculous she could come up with such excuse, squeezing her butt.

When she say this, i was not doubting Jeremy at all.

In fact, it looks more to me that she is trying to sow discord between us, she think i would go and confront Jeremy, probably had a tiff with him etc. 

I wanted to assume that she probably had some misunderstanding during the party like how it might be so common that you have brushed against each other but when she say squeezing, if i am the culprit, do you think i am not afraid someone will caught me in the act?

Especially when there were so many people around?

Who would be so stupid to do that, we are not in a club, bar setting leh.

Besides, the party was held in May and she told me in October and it was right after she know i BTO with my bf, isn't that sowing discord?

Why did you not catch the person on the spot if you think someone has molested you?

You might really get molested by others but it doesn't mean it is my bf who molested you if there are no other witness or you did not see that its his hands who touched your butt.

Its impossible you won't react if someone has touched you without any warning.

The part that she mentioned she cherish our friendship, oh please.

It disgust me, if i choose to believe you because of what you say and not trusting my bf, that only shows how fragile my relationship is with Jeremy.

One one hand she say she cherish the friendship, on the other hand she hope it won't affect our relationship until she knows i BTO with him.

I don't get the part of her asking me to take precaution.

Taking precaution so my bf won't squeeze my butt? or taking precaution that he might go around squeezing other people butt? haha.

This is not a case of you having a tryst with my boyfriend and i am being kept in the dark situation.

Or photos of both of you getting caught in bed, naked.

Even if you tried to show me some photos, with the modern technology, it is highly possible that anything can be photoshopped as well.

You should know that i am not dumb.

I was being sarcastic when i tell her that it won't affect our relationship just like how she assumed that its going to be fine after what she told me.

If you choose to sow discord between Jeremy and me, i am more than willing to drop this friendship anytime because its not worth it to fight with Jeremy just because of a make-up story.

I was telling her that she should react immediately, 

 When i tried to advise her the correct way to deal if the situation was 'real' she said that i don't believe her.

Still insisting that it was Jeremy, no doubt that i will side with Jeremy because i think she is fabricating all these by her imagination!

Telling me after the party has ended after 5 months, it was a sow discord act when i told my other close friends, no one choose to believe her side of story when they see these screenshot of the conversation.

Assuming if she think its my bf who molested her, why did she not try to ask my bf whether he molested her?

She probably sense that i was not going to believe her crap story and she reply after that it might be a misunderstanding and not minding what she had said to me.

Trying to meet again in next gathering, sorry, but there is no next time anymore.

I hope you don't mind what i say over here as well hor.

On that day, I even asked Jeremy to drop her at the nearest mrt station when we was leaving Brant's house, if you was being molested, and like she say, she was so shocked, will you even take a molester's car?

"Like he squeezed my butt, nvm la i just take his car since he can send me to nearest mrt station"

Got like that one uh?

Instead of being grateful, you are trying to sow discord because you probably are jealous that i had BTO with my bf as you did not BTO for a flat with your bf which you have been saying that you want to BTO whenever you had a bf?

In the first place, i was not showing off, she was the one who came and asked me, if you are jealous. don't ask because there is no way you are going to have a good boyfriend like mine because of your character.

When she told me this, i message bf and was joking to him that someone asked me to think twice before marrying you.

and he goes' who the shit is that someone?'

so i show him the ss, and he say he did not molest/squeeze her butt.

i mean its kinda of cute the way he say because i had no doubts towards him, it was just more of teasing him.

To be honest. previously before this saga, Jeremy told me he does not have a good impression towards surin because of the way she talks, money, drinking, liquor etc.

Something like a materialistic women, so i am not sure if surin mentioned the lustful glance he give her might actually be disgusted glances. HAHA

Of course, this was our topic between us and i won't go and tell her that my boyfriend do not like you.

so if he does not have a good impression to start with, why would he start to think of molesting her at all?

I was kidding with him that if he wanted to squeeze a butt, shouldn't he squeeze mine?

since my ass is bigger, it should be more bouncy right. haha

when we was talking in chinese

挤屁股！

we was laughing together with this term,

It has also become a joke for me to crack with him when he was driving to airport to pick mummy and olm, initially he wanted me to wait in the car while he went to pick them because he say i am blur blur and might get lost in the airport terminals.

So i asked if he has my sister's hp no to contact her, to which he reply, 'no and why does he need her number for?'

and i reacted instantly, 'so that you can squeeze her pigu!'

HAHAHA super funny.

but in the end i decided to pick them up so he won't have a chance to ji my sister pigu. LOL. oops

We had dinner at our house the other day,

 All these dishes is cooked by my dad! But for two consecutive weeks,dad has been cooking up a feast whenever bf joins us for dinner!

This was last week, chili crabs somemore, sotong, fish! meats! When i told my parents, they find it ridiculous as well and they trusted bf's character that he would never do such a thing.

i will really be an idiot if i believe her words.

Besides if my parent's disapprove Jeremy, they would never approve of us getting together as well.

So, well i guess this should be the end of our friendship.

Don't blame me but your mouth or your jealousy for trying to sow discord.

Plan failed.

till then!