Tuesday, December 9, 2014

How to know if a friend is your friend

Hello readers!
This post would be a very lengthy one as i tried to address some issue that i had been trying to keep it at a low profile even though i am infamous for being a complain queen.
I have been hesistating for the longest time before deciding if i want to write this post.
As i know when i wrote this post, it would also probably the end of our friendship that i once cherished so much with a friend.
But, after so many incidents, i realised it is not up to me to decide anymore, the moment i observed that i am being made use of.

The root of the problems started with the first incident that make me so frustrated.
I have been complaining to my close friends that i could remember it so clearly as i am typing it down now.
When i decided to enrol in kaplan to complete my degree, the sales consultant told me that i could put a friend name if i know of any who had studied in kaplan as the referral,  so she, (kiti) was the one who accompanied me when the sales consultant was explaining to me the details of the course,
at that time, i could not think of any names, so she offered by saying that she has a friend who studied in kaplan, so we could use her friend's name.
I was skeptical initially when the sales consultant told me that the referral fee is $700.
But since i got a name from her, why not?

If you were to look at the marketing point of view, this $700 is actually rightfully my own money that they charge from my own school fee, so this referral fee should rightfully belong to mine even though i used her friend's name. which in fact, i didn't get into kaplan because of her friend referral anyway!

Later on, i realised i had friends that are already studying in kaplan, if i choose their name, i probably would have received all my $700 instead of half, which is what i am going to explain further.

She knows about the referral fee and she told me that i ought to treat her if i really receive the $700, which i readily agreed at that point of time.

It was true that after the first few months when school started, the sales consultant came to look for me and pass me the cheque, there were other classmates who received the cheque of the referral fee as well!

But the cheque name was kiti's friend and not my name, so it means i have to contact her friend to come up with an agreement of the money as i don't know her friend at all.
Initially i msg her and told her that i really received the cheque, i tried to ask her to check if her friend can return me the $700 because by right it really belong to me what!

I had other classmates using their friend's name and they did not even ask for half of the money and transferred the $700 back to them.
I think i am quite unlucky to have a friend that is different from theirs.

At that time, i did expect that the friend might not be willing to return the $700 because you never know if one will be greedy after they actually received a cheque of $700 under their name without doing anything?

So i did told her, if he is not willing, we would have a spilt 50-50 agreement, other friends was telling me its so easy to earn that $350 just by using his name.
I had no competitive advantage because the name on the cheque is her friend.
As my friend, i think she should know better that money is a very sensitive topic,
she was so protective of her friend, taking sides for him because she claimed we use his name in the first place without asking.

But in the first place, she suggested it!
And even if we did use her friend name, she could take the initative to inform her own friends that she is using his name as a referrer name, i mean he is your friend, not mine.
If you feel paiseh, in the first place, don't suggest using your friend name then!

She feel that the friend deserve the $350 just by using his name.
At that time, there was another alternative by paying $50 to change the referra name, at that time i was deciding whether i should change the cheque to another of my friend that i could trust instead.

But she was convincing me that her friend can be trusted, reliable, whatever crap.
So i trusted her, i went to deposit the cheque, it was a friday and the following monday was a public holiday so technically, by wednesday or thursday, the money should have already bank inside her friend account,
we had already come up with the agreement of 50-50.
 i checked my bank account on wednesday and the money was not in,
i hate to even lend friends $ because i don't like the idea of having to ask for my money back as though i am begging them.
So i msg her, and she msg her friend,
  all this while i did not communicate with her friend as she was the messenger between me and her friend, 
i am not sure why she does not even want to tell her friend that its me who is using his name, instead she told me she didn't told her friend that its not her who is using his name.
because i tried to ask her to give me her friend contact number and she was reluctant to give it to me.
now the entire incident sounds fishy.
who knows if she actually spilt the other $350 with her friend?
because if you are worried that your friend knows that i am the one using his name and he might not return me the $ because i am nothing to him, that means he is not reliable or trustworthy as you claim right?

i only reflected after the entire incident because i see how 'fake' she is as a person.
I had to spend more than a week to get that money and that is the result of pestering her to bug her friend to transfer me the money.
She was getting frustrated at me as well, which fucking make me mad because she should have some responsibility in ensuring that her friend transferred me the money to me instead of me having to ask her.
internet banking is so advanced nowsdays, ibanking transfer takes less than 5min to transfer and her friend could take more than a week to transfer and this was last warning when i told her if i am not getting the money back, i am going to file a police report for fraud.
i had the screenshots, and she wouldnt get off unscathed because she is also involved, if anything happen, she is also the accomplice of her friend if i can't get the money back!
because you know how fucking irritating when she told me her friend is working, and will transfer, days after days, nothing at all.
don't fucking tell me he has no time, because this is just an excuse, like i say, ibanking.
even if he does not have ibanking, he do work, and there are several atms around, what is so difficult to transfer the fees?
 seriously? facing such a situation, you can't expect me to stay calm and choose to trust her friend like what she told me to right?
she can still assure me that HE WILL TRANSFER ME THE MONEY BECAUSE HE CAN BE TRUSTED, last time his kaplan textbooks he give it all free to HER.
ARE YOU STUPID OR WHAT? kaplan textbook is usually free and this is not money, this is just fucking papers!
i can give all my TEXTBOOKS AWAY FOR FREE after i graduate too!

before that i had also tweeted on twitter complaining about her friend, because it really making my blood boil testing my limit of patience!
and she got angry because she come and message me telling me like
'can you don't put my name in the twitter, while i did say i am saying Kiti's friend, if anyone blind to see and assume its you that i am scolding, too bad la.'
before you started to slam me on twitter, thinking i got no fucking idea. THINK CAREFULLY AGAIN.

i rmb after all this fuss, i even message dhannie as he was serving as a policemen regarding cases like this because she told me on sat night by tt day could receive.
SUNDAY morning i still did not receive when i checked, until few hours later, she msg me telling me to check my bank acc as her friend had transferred the fee.
to her, she think that i am blaming her for all these fuss, and she got frustrated too, i was angry with her friend and not her, though partly i think if she could be honest with me and i wouldnt mind to pay the additional fee to change the name if she feel its wrong to use her fucking friend's name.

and she also emphasised after her friend had transferred me the $ that i don't have to give her the treat because she is tired of being the messenger etc blah.

i thought there's nothing wrong in promising her the treat even though it was so much problem during the process of getting my money back.
so i told her that i would give her the dinner treat as usual.
but during that period of time, i think after a few days i guess, i saw her fucking tweets that was bluntly talking about me even though she didn't mention the names.
if you want to say about someone, just fucking mention the name.
 don't try to be a saint.
i had the screenshot previously, catching her several tweets that was talking about me.
which i think its downright 贱 to the point.
or usually we call these type of person 小人 for my us readers, it can be deemed as little person, a direct translation which often refer to as lowly person, mean person, a dirty rat? HAHA i went to search for the definition to be more precise.
because she tweeted something like, 
'see this kind of person worth trusting? you fled even faster than my friend! i think i should also screenshot everything and show to the police or pass to the police too!' its almost similar even without the screenshot. 
and i am not afraid if you do read this, tell me its aren't true, you didn't tweeted this . i shown it to my several friends with the screenshot and they could vouch for it.
i guess there could no be other coincidence that she has other friends about the same time frame that told her something about reporting to the police?
and seriously, if you want to ask me the motive of her tweet?
to defame me? i guess? you know how bitchy it is when you don't mention names because you arouse more curiosity and people start asking you.

and she still got the cheek to be angry  when i mention her friend and she ask me not to tweet using her name because it will spoil her reputation?
what a joke, if your reputation is so easy to be tarnished, i guess you don't really have a good reputation to start with? 

the only reason i could only think of is, the promise of the dinner treat that i had not been able to meet her to treat her the one fucking meal that she can't wait to eat?

and even though i was angry over that tweet, but i maintained my cool, because i think she probably has never had a free meal before and she want to use $ issue to measure it equivalent to a dinner treat that is not so important to me. like 你有酱饿吗?! are you that hungry that you have to wait for me to treat?

and you cant deny that tweet is not directed towards me, because i saw another bitch that i once slam her before, AMANDA GOH or KOH or whatever shit? asking who or something and she reply someone that she is not very pleased with too.
so you see, i don't malign anyone without checking. 
if i want, i could have just confronted her when she tweeted that.
but i thought in my mind at that time, i dont see the need to having this friend in my life.
i will still give her that treat she WANTED SO MUCH.
but to me, its equivalent to a farewell dinner.
we are never ever hanging out together.

and during the period when i was busy , she was constantly messaging me and asking me when to meet etc.
however right after the treat that i did pay for the treat, she seem to vanish in thin air,
no more messaging for meet up etc.
you disgust me alot. do you know?
you make me see through a person's true colours.
you kiti kui.

her other tweet also mentioned something that is so fucking misleading like i had been seeking for her help in alot of stuffs and she shouldn't even help me.

I cannot remember asking any of her fucking help in whatever.
1. when her bloody face got some breakouts, she called me immediately asking me for help, asking me for advice from my boss regarding her face.
i seriously regret introducing her to see my boss because she spend such a long time in the consultation and hogging up the entire q.
and thats probably why my boss dont even give her a discount. 
when he used to give to my other friends.
2. she ask me to help her take slimming pills so that she could consume or for her aunt etc i remember helping her to get 2 box of it, and i cannot remember if she did transfer me the money for the pills.
because i know she did not hand me money at the same time when i pass her the pills.
in my memory, i cannot really remember. 
if you want to say me as a money sucker, please remember if you suck other people money first.
3. when she decided to apply for an admin inside the army, and got rejected and tried to ask me to ask my bf for help to see if she could get recruited in.
 she only know how to make use of others when she is in need of help.
4. ask me for my lecture notes so that she could use it to give some tuition to her friends or students.
this was after the money issue incident.
i did pass her some of my lectures notes to her.
5. told me she want to go to ndp as i told her i might be able to get the tickets for this year and if my bf was present, she want to know some other guys in ns through my bf.
but she did ask me to get her the tickets, its a bloody hell fact.

I was still being kind to her despite when she was saying me on twitter, but i know after that incident, things was not ever going to be the same anymore,
 i was not even planning to even stay in contact with her until few months ago, when i started on a losing weight streak diet as bf was overseas and i wanted to give him a surprise, and publish one selfie on facebook, 
everyone likes the photo with some commenting that i lose alot of weight,
as a friend, if you really are, i don't think there is anything you need to hide by having to privately msg me over wechat telling me i lose weight and telling me that you wanna go fitness with me suddenly?!
are you fucking kidding me? when we rarely even contact after so long and suddenly you saw my photo and what are you trying to get from me now?!
, she also got the cheek to ask me my weight at that time, i was dumb enough to reply her telling her my weight and she didn't reply aftertat, probably thinking that it was the photo that was deceiving and i didn't really lose much weight after asking my weight.
probably the most recent photo i had. 
and then after probably few weeks or a month, she wechat me again asking me some xenical meds also for slimming purposes, can you see how this person is using me?
when she need me, she come looking for me, when she don't, she disappear.
and still got the fat cheek to tell me you help me so many times.
i find the need to say because i had my own right to clarify the entire issue to prevent misleading others into thinking she is the victim from everything.

if we have any mutual friends reading whatever i am writing right now, and thinking whether you should let her know, go ahead. 
i am not twisting the facts. 
whatever i say is the truth, i am not even afraid for a confrontation.
but at the end of the day, there is no way i am going to be even label as friends w her anymore. not even a hi-bye friends.
and i think she is so insignificant that i didn't even realise she blocked me on wechat and whatsapp.
should not be just ytd when i realised, maybe when she see i didn't reply her, got angry and started to block me. LOL.
having a dog is better than having you around as my friend.

i am still very grateful to have some of my close friends who will never try to take advantage of me like her.
so to anyone out there, if you observed you have such a friend like this, its time to get rid of this kind of friend because they will never think for you but for themselves only, and you ended up being used at the end of the day.
till then!

Monday, November 10, 2014

Jieying and Junjie 22th Birthday Celebration

Hello readers!
 Went out with JJ and JY to celebrate their 22th birthday!
On a separate day even though their birthday falls on the same month.
We went to watch a movie and having dinner for JY as it was a weekday,
we decided to watch a movie titled "Sifu vs Vampire" at west mall.
It was a comedy movie! The cinema theatre looks so new compared to the one in woodlands!
After our movie, we went to Bali Thai for dinner!
I love thai food, tom yum is one of my must have dishes when i had thai food!

We choose their buffet menu, these are served only once but she couldn't finish it and was sharing with us!
we spend our dinner on catching up again!
For JJ birthday's celebration, initial plan was to go to Wild Wild Wet on a weekdays to avoid the crowds, but it has been raining everyday so we had to cancel this plan.
JJ suggested meeting at yishun to decide what we want to do, it was a very impromptu decision because we only decide where to go on the day itself.
We went to had laksa for lunch as there is one popular laksa stall near the yishun bus interchange.
JJ find that this stall laksa is even better than the famous katong laksa!
After our lunch, we went for bowling at yishun safra.
we walked pass KTPH, and saw this hopscoth!

We change to playing pool as we had to wait until 5pm before we could play bowling.
It has been quite long since we played together!
I remember there was one occasion during our schooling in RP, we managed to finish our presentation slides earlier so we went to woodland checkpoint during the lunch time to play!
After playing pool, we went back to bowling!

Jieying brought her selfie monopod, and we was taking some wefie before playing! HAHA
 taking lots of photos again!

 6 years of friendship and still going strong!


 we were posing with these teddy bears as one day, i was cleaning my room, and i realised i had too many soft toys, and i know that JY love teddy bears, when i am not actually a fan of it but i do receive these as my birthday presents in the past, so i took a snapshot asking her to choose, so she choose these two! HAHA
 i went to get these teddy bear washed before passing to her!
i cannot remember this teddy bear is given by who, its quite cute but i thought its pointless if i were to keep it in the box because i have selected soft toys that is sleeping with me already on the bed,and  they are already filling up half of my bed.

After our bowling session, we went for our dinner!
initially i thought of going to sembawang shopping centre because i know there used to be a steamboat restaurant located in basement, but my information is all outdated because it has been so long since i went there and it has already closed down!
it was already raining when we was leaving safra yishun, thank god both JJ and me brought umbrella and i was sharing w JY while JJ was protecting the teddy bears from the rain! HAHA
there was nothing much to eat at SSC, so in the end we thought of going opposite as there was some shops that looks like kopitiam etc, and see what we could find!
so just opposite the ssc, we saw this JJ Thai Cuisine, it look decent enough, clean and most most importantly, there is NO GST or service Charge!
i am not sure if its newly opened, but the dishes is all damm cheap!
one bowl of tom yum soup for just $6?!
i can't rmb if the phad thai is just $6 or $8! but this is damm cheap compared to eating at a thai restaurant!
so we was looking at the menu outside, initially we thought we need to wait to be seated, but actually we realised we can just walk in! HAHA
there are also mookata too! for $39.90 but we tried ala carte dishes!
we ordered tom yum soup, clear, seafood and chicken, seafood taste nicer! 
 Then we have the minced pork, phai thai cooked w glass noodles, kang kong cooked with sambals, and honey chicken w cashew nuts! it was damm yummeh! HAHA
all these plus 2 thai ice tea and green tea only cost $41!
its super cheap in my opinion la, and i definitely will return again!
i am spreading the word around to visit this affordable thai food! Apparently they have another outlet at bukit merah! they have a fb and website, so you can google JJ thai cuisine if you want to know more about it! 
Generally the food is served very fast too even though there were alot of customers at the same time!
anyone who is interested, i don't know any other buses except 858 that you can take and alight when you see sembawang shopping centre, this restaurant is located opposite the ssc, which mean you need to cross the road if you are at the ssc, and turning to a small road where the cars will turn in and you will be able to see it on the right, it is very distinctive and impossible not to be able to see this restaurant! HAHA
and so that pretty much summarise our day full of fun, joy, laughter without having to go all the way to town! HAHA, i really hate to go to town nowsdays unless necessary because its always the same old place, or maybe because i have went to town for so many times, there's nothing much to do unless you are filthy rich to be able to buy all those branded stuffs and i am soso sick of it! and the travelling distance :( 
guess i shall end for now! till then! :)

Sunday, November 9, 2014

Trust Issue

Hello readers! Attend one of bf's event at work and this was taken accidentally and i find this photo nice so i decided to post it over here.
Some photo taking at his camp area which was opened to their family members for that day!
I am so happy that i was able to wear this dress because it couldn't fit me previously when i was so fat!

Initially i only told some of my close friends that i had BTO for a flat with Jeremy, and some of my friends were happy for me, but then, i realised not all friends feel the same way, maybe its jealousy. well i don't know. But i used to regard her as one of my close friends, which i didn't told her until she asked me, but after this incident, it proves that i should probably kept a distance from her.
As i am typing this right now, and if she is reading this, i think she will probably understand as i did not tell her right in the face.

So, on one day, i was doing some housework at home when i received a message from Surin, i met her during my secondary school, and we had tried to stay in contact, but i did not tell her that i BTO until she asked me first.
This was the screenshot of our whatsapp conversation.
Initially it started normal for a conversation who have not been texting each other,
All until, she asked me the part of BTO and i told her yes i had BTO for a flat with my bf.

As we continued the conversation, i assume she was asking out of concern because when i told some of my friends, they would asked me whether i am sure that Jeremy is the right guy for me, but none gone to such extent like her.
i was telling her that i had no intention of getting married yet but since BTO takes time, so things might changed in the next 3 to 4 years so we decided to go for BTO first.
This was the start of the drama, she started by texting this, you know in drama, it happens everytime, but i guess it do happen in real life too! Just that in real life, you can choose not to committ the same mistake in drama where you don't check with the guy and believe your friend instead, depending on both credibility.
She continued by telling me that she need to tell me something but wanted assurance that it won't affect our friendship. When she texted this, i knew she had some ulterior motive, and wanted to figure out what is she trying to say to me.

I had very strong intuition and i can roughly guess what the person is trying to do when they text something like this, 
she was trying to convince me into believing what she is going to say yet trying to hold back to make me curious.
Which i replied instantly if she doesn't want to say, its ok.
Trying to play mind game, but its so obvious because she replied 1 min later if you see the time, 
i think she was right by assuming that i won't believe what she say, because i don't believe her at all.
I was guessing what she want to say, probably had to do with my boyfriend but i decided to play along with her.

She started by telling me she does not have a good feeling about my boyfriend.
well, i have a good feeling towards him, isn't that mattars the most? HAHA.
she told me that my bf was giving her funny glances, and continued by explaining during brant's birthday party, Jeremy squeezed her butt when it was very crowded. 

I do remember the scene where she say it was very crowded, because everyone was gathering around the table when it was time to cut the birthday cake.
I just find it ridiculous she could come up with such excuse, squeezing her butt.
When she say this, i was not doubting Jeremy at all.
In fact, it looks more to me that she is trying to sow discord between us, she think i would go and confront Jeremy, probably had a tiff with him etc. 
I wanted to assume that she probably had some misunderstanding during the party like how it might be so common that you have brushed against each other but when she say squeezing, if i am the culprit, do you think i am not afraid someone will caught me in the act?
Especially when there were so many people around?
Who would be so stupid to do that, we are not in a club, bar setting leh.
Besides, the party was held in May and she told me in October and it was right after she know i BTO with my bf, isn't that sowing discord?
Why did you not catch the person on the spot if you think someone has molested you?
You might really get molested by others but it doesn't mean it is my bf who molested you if there are no other witness or you did not see that its his hands who touched your butt.
Its impossible you won't react if someone has touched you without any warning.
The part that she mentioned she cherish our friendship, oh please.
It disgust me, if i choose to believe you because of what you say and not trusting my bf, that only shows how fragile my relationship is with Jeremy.

One one hand she say she cherish the friendship, on the other hand she hope it won't affect our relationship until she knows i BTO with him.
I don't get the part of her asking me to take precaution.
Taking precaution so my bf won't squeeze my butt? or taking precaution that he might go around squeezing other people butt? haha.

This is not a case of you having a tryst with my boyfriend and i am being kept in the dark situation.
Or photos of both of you getting caught in bed, naked.
Even if you tried to show me some photos, with the modern technology, it is highly possible that anything can be photoshopped as well.
You should know that i am not dumb.
I was being sarcastic when i tell her that it won't affect our relationship just like how she assumed that its going to be fine after what she told me.
If you choose to sow discord between Jeremy and me, i am more than willing to drop this friendship anytime because its not worth it to fight with Jeremy just because of a make-up story.
I was telling her that she should react immediately, 

 When i tried to advise her the correct way to deal if the situation was 'real' she said that i don't believe her.
Still insisting that it was Jeremy, no doubt that i will side with Jeremy because i think she is fabricating all these by her imagination!

Telling me after the party has ended after 5 months, it was a sow discord act when i told my other close friends, no one choose to believe her side of story when they see these screenshot of the conversation.
Assuming if she think its my bf who molested her, why did she not try to ask my bf whether he molested her?
She probably sense that i was not going to believe her crap story and she reply after that it might be a misunderstanding and not minding what she had said to me.
Trying to meet again in next gathering, sorry, but there is no next time anymore.
I hope you don't mind what i say over here as well hor.
On that day, I even asked Jeremy to drop her at the nearest mrt station when we was leaving Brant's house, if you was being molested, and like she say, she was so shocked, will you even take a molester's car?
"Like he squeezed my butt, nvm la i just take his car since he can send me to nearest mrt station"
Got like that one uh?
Instead of being grateful, you are trying to sow discord because you probably are jealous that i had BTO with my bf as you did not BTO for a flat with your bf which you have been saying that you want to BTO whenever you had a bf?

In the first place, i was not showing off, she was the one who came and asked me, if you are jealous. don't ask because there is no way you are going to have a good boyfriend like mine because of your character.

When she told me this, i message bf and was joking to him that someone asked me to think twice before marrying you.

and he goes' who the shit is that someone?'
so i show him the ss, and he say he did not molest/squeeze her butt.
i mean its kinda of cute the way he say because i had no doubts towards him, it was just more of teasing him.
To be honest. previously before this saga, Jeremy told me he does not have a good impression towards surin because of the way she talks, money, drinking, liquor etc.
Something like a materialistic women, so i am not sure if surin mentioned the lustful glance he give her might actually be disgusted glances. HAHA
Of course, this was our topic between us and i won't go and tell her that my boyfriend do not like you.
so if he does not have a good impression to start with, why would he start to think of molesting her at all?

I was kidding with him that if he wanted to squeeze a butt, shouldn't he squeeze mine?
since my ass is bigger, it should be more bouncy right. haha
when we was talking in chinese
we was laughing together with this term,

It has also become a joke for me to crack with him when he was driving to airport to pick mummy and olm, initially he wanted me to wait in the car while he went to pick them because he say i am blur blur and might get lost in the airport terminals.
So i asked if he has my sister's hp no to contact her, to which he reply, 'no and why does he need her number for?'
and i reacted instantly, 'so that you can squeeze her pigu!'
HAHAHA super funny.
but in the end i decided to pick them up so he won't have a chance to ji my sister pigu. LOL. oops

We had dinner at our house the other day,
 All these dishes is cooked by my dad! But for two consecutive weeks,dad has been cooking up a feast whenever bf joins us for dinner!

This was last week, chili crabs somemore, sotong, fish! meats! When i told my parents, they find it ridiculous as well and they trusted bf's character that he would never do such a thing.
i will really be an idiot if i believe her words.
Besides if my parent's disapprove Jeremy, they would never approve of us getting together as well.
So, well i guess this should be the end of our friendship.
Don't blame me but your mouth or your jealousy for trying to sow discord.
Plan failed.
till then!